Dating & Relationship Advice

It is shocking how many singles use the statement “All the
good ones are taken” and how many of them really believe it
to be true. No wonder, if your friends confirm it to you and
you go out there only to see it for yourself it becomes hard
not to believe it. Yet, people keep meeting someone special
and getting into loving committed relationships every day.
You may wonder what their secret is, I tell you what. They
probably have a different belief, the one that says: “There
is a good one out there for me who is still available.”

All the good ones are taken must be the most common limiting
belief for singles, it almost becomes a mantra for some. Why
do we choose to believe this? Is this a way to make us feel
safe, keep us home alone and not wanting to interact with
any potential “good” men or women. Well, why bother, if he
is so attractive and interesting to talk to, he must be
married or in a committed relationship. Or, conversely, if
he is single, there must be something wrong with him that I
don’t know.

While this type of mentality works well to keep you safe and
protected from potential, if not imaginary rejection, it
actually keeps you away from meeting your ideal partner.
This belief encourages you to settle for a less than ideal
relationship. Not only will it keep you from attracting
people who are single and available, it will keep you
attracted to unavailable. You will actually start believing
that it is easier to take an unavailable person and change
his mind to make him become available to you then meet
somebody new who would be available to you in the first
place. It is amazing how an imaginary statement you hear
over and over again can ring more true to you than the
actual truth.

When you say this statement out loud, all the good ones are
taken, listen to the sound and the energy of your voice. Do
you sound down, irritated, annoyed? When you hear your
friends say it to you, what do you hear in their voice? How
does it make you feel? When most people hear this statement
and chose to believe it, it can only make them do two
things. One – comply with it and two – rebel against it. We
already know what happens when you comply with it. When you
chose to rebel against something you deeply believe to be
true, even if you are consciously unwilling to accept it,
you’re still stuck and blocked from manifesting the
relationship you desire. Every person you meet who happens
to be attractive to you and in a relationship will become
the evidence to support the very thing you’re desperately
trying not to believe. And that may actually force you to
avoid interacting with people you find attractive.

So what is the solution? There are three things you can do
to clear your way to attracting your ideal relationship from
blocks and limiting beliefs. One, accept that you will
continue attracting what you don’t want and heal your
frustration around it. Two, learn how to say no to what you
don’t want with clarity and courtesy. Three, continue to
believe that what you want is out there for you, because
that is the real truth.

About the Author:

Katherine Bouglai
Personal Empowerment Coach

http://www.coaching4singles.com

I can remember back in high school, there was this kid who
was always around the prettiest girls in school. We all
though that man, this guy has all of the luck. Then one
night, we were at a party and shooting the breeze and he
revealed something. He was friends with all of these girls,
but none of them would date him. He had asked them out, but
all they saw him as was a friend.

Well, that was high school. The thing is, even when you get
older, the same old story goes around. Guys will be great at
making friendships with beautiful women, but have a hard time
even getting one date with them. If you ever found yourself
in the position where it seemed like you were destined to be
nothing more than a friend to a woman that you wanted to be
with, then you know that it’s NOT a good feeling at all.

But, what can YOU do?

How can you go beyond being friends with a woman?

Here are some tips that should help get you past the friend
zone with a woman:

1. STOP being friends to a woman. Well, at least with women
that you want to date. You create the circumstance when you
would rather have a friendship with a woman than nothing at
all with her. Although that might sound like the right thing
to say, it’s not exactly a painless thing to experience. If
you want to be more than friends with a woman, then you
cannot go around and assume the role of her friend just to
be near her.

2. Learn how to build attraction from the START. More
important than anything else, with any relationship in life,
you have to start off on the right footing. You wouldn’t want
to start off on the wrong foot with your banker and then ask
for a loan, so don’t start off being friends with a woman
and then asking for something more. From the start, you have
to work to create and build an attraction with her that is
more romantic than it is platonic.

3. Go for the GOLD. At some point you have to face the
possibility of rejection. You have to make your move.
Standing still, waiting for the perfect time, it’s only
going to get you deeper and deeper into the friend zone with
a woman. If you are already there, you will have some work to
do. You will have to make her see you differently. And that
takes time.

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No matter what age you are as a man, one of the hardest
things to do is to determine whether or not a woman really
likes you. And by likes you, we are not talking about he’s a
cool guy I’d like to be friends with. You want more than that
and that is what you really want to be able to detect. You
also want to know HOW to make a woman want YOU.

Let’s get right into how to know if she likes you and how to
make her feel this way about you. Here are a few pointers to
get YOU started:

1. Does she initiate the interaction with you? You don’t
want to be the one that always initiates things with a
woman. If you find her going out of her way to start a
conversation or to start flirting with you, then you are
probably on the right track with her. To make her do this
more, then you have to make yourself unavailable to a woman
at times. You cannot be the kind of guy that is always there
for a woman whenever she wants.

2. Does she flirt with you or do you always do the flirting?
A lot of guys will flirt with a woman and assume that he’s
got her hooked. The ting is, she has to be flirting back
with you and it cannot be that kind of flirting a woman does
when she’s really just trying to be nice to a guy. You want
to experience a little give and take when it comes to
flirting with a woman.

3. Does she try to make herself look better for YOU? If you
are going to hang out with a woman, you want her to pretty
herself up for you. If she doesn’t try to make any effort or
if she’s more than okay with you seeing her in a raggedy pair
of sweats and no makeup, then you may want to ramp things up
with her. Women naturally want to pretty themselves up in
some way if they really like a guy.

4. What does her body language say? The worst thing you can
get from a woman is when her body language says that she
thinks of you like a brother. If she doesn’t mind getting
real close to you, then that is a good sign. If she pulls
away the closer that you get, you may want to try a
different approach.

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Flirting is one of those things that really throws both men
and women for a loop. It sounds so easy, so simple, and so
basic. Yet, there are a lot of men AND women that really
feel as if they have no clue on how to flirt the right way.
As a guy, it’s kind of your job to make the interaction with
a woman go smoothly and be enjoyable to her. If you don’t,
you can be sure of one thing. That you will have a HARD time
impressing her or making her want to see more of YOU.

Trying to make a woman want more of you can seem like a
mountainous task to achieve at times. In fact, many guys put
that mountain of pressure on themselves instead of being
relaxed, taking it easy and focusing on flirting with her in
a way that excites and intrigues her.

You have to make her open to you if you want to make her
want more of you. Otherwise, trying to get a closed off
woman to become receptive to your advances is nearly
impossible.

So, what are some flirting tricks with women that will reel
her in and make her want MORE of YOU?

1. Never allow yourself to think too far ahead.

This is where the mind gets all messed up and most guys
start to trip over their words or become nervous about
impressing a woman. If you want to make her see you as the
kind of guy that she HAS to be with, then you have to think
in the moment and not too far ahead. The mental game with
women is just as important as anything else.

2. When in doubt, make her smile and laugh.

Sometimes, you are going to kind of get stumped as to where
to go next while you are flirting with a woman. When this
happens, you can easily create an awkward silence. And an
awkward silence is NOT going to give her that feeling that
she has to see more of you. Throw in a couple of light jokes
to make her laugh and smile when these moments come up.

3. Make it all just a game.

I don’t really like to play games or mess with a woman’s
head. That’s not my thing. But, to make flirting with a
woman more fun, I treat it like a challenge or a game if you
will to make her feel something. It re frames everything to
go from feeling like I have to make her feel something to I
will make her feel attraction.

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You have to admit, trying to make a woman desire you is not
something that most guys are really able to do without a
whole bunch of trial and error. If you don’t have the
experience to really get into the heart of what attracts a
woman, then you might have to deal with more error than you
do anything else. Rejection from women sucks and so, most
guys don’t really ever get enough experience to learn how to
trigger a woman’s desire and attraction.

Is there a shortcut that you can take and find out what
female attraction secrets will make her smile and make her
desire YOU?

The more that you pick up from experiences that other men
have had, the easier you can really see what works and what
you NEED to do to make a woman smile and make her think of
you with desire.

Here are some tips that should help you trigger a woman’s
desire for YOU?

1. Make her feel like there is an instant connection. The
idea of falling in love at first sight, of having very
powerful chemistry with a woman right off the bat, is
something that most guys want to be able to make happen. And
if you can make a woman feel this way, you can be sure that
you will have her addicted to being around you. That is what
you need her to feel if you want her to fall for you.

2. Sweep her up in the moment. If you can make a woman feel
as though the moment with you will never end, you will have
her. How do you do this? You have to learn how to use both
your body language and your flirting to make her feel in the
moment with you. Most men when they are flirting, they don’t
even bother to check their body language. You want to make
sure that you are not sending off the WRONG signals to a
woman.

3. Don’t give in to her right away. The game, the chase is
fun to play. Don’t take away her fun by giving in to her
right away. The more you can make her chase after you, the
easier it will be to get her to feel as though you are the
one for her. If you don’t and you do give in too soon, then
don’t be surprised if she suddenly pulls away from you.

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